Monogamy and Commitment
What is wrong with society nowadays? Is being divorce or separated becoming a trend? Does human being have difficulty committing to just one person or relationships fail because of the lack of trust with your partner?
Did you know that monogamy is one of the several mating systems used in animals? There are three types of monogamy: social monogamy, sexual monogamy, and genetic monogamy. Social monogamy refers to two people who live together, have sex with one another, and cooperate in acquiring basic resources such as food, clothes, and money. Sexual monogamy refers to two people who remain sexually exclusive with one another and have no outside sex partners. Genetic monogamy refers to the fact that two partners only have offspring with one another.
It's important to remember that social monogamy does not always involve marriage. Social monogamy simply refers to two people who live together, have sex with one another, and cooperate in acquiring basic resources such as food, clothes, and money. A married couple is almost always a socially monogamous couple. But couples who choose to cohabit without getting married can also be socially monogamous.
People disagree strongly about the value of monogamy. Some people believe monogamous marriage oppresses women and burdens people with unrealistic expectations of lifelong sexual monogamy. Monogamy from this perspective promotes sexism and leads to needless suffering. Other people believe monogamy promotes women's equality and provides a context to deepen trust and intimacy. Monogamy from this perspective provides a foundation for social progress and offers people more secure relationships.
There are two different definitions of "commitment". One definition is being sent to an institution. The other deals with making and keeping pledges or promises to another person. Some couples have troubles with commitment because they confuse the two definitions. They are afraid that commitment in a relationship means getting into an institution with too much structure, control and barriers to their freedom to be themselves. They are wrong. A commitment is a freeing and growing experience. When two people make a commitment to each other to grow, learn about life and love together, they are creating a positive place to be. A commitment is an act of trust, both of yourself and of your partner.
Some couples choose to commit themselves to each other for life, through a marriage ceremony, either religious or civil. Some couples haven't reached that stage of formal public commitment decision. They may not know if or when they will reach it. If a relationship is to have a chance, people must make their own commitments between themselves about their goals and expectations, as individuals, and as partners or lovers.
Did you know that monogamy is one of the several mating systems used in animals? There are three types of monogamy: social monogamy, sexual monogamy, and genetic monogamy. Social monogamy refers to two people who live together, have sex with one another, and cooperate in acquiring basic resources such as food, clothes, and money. Sexual monogamy refers to two people who remain sexually exclusive with one another and have no outside sex partners. Genetic monogamy refers to the fact that two partners only have offspring with one another.
It's important to remember that social monogamy does not always involve marriage. Social monogamy simply refers to two people who live together, have sex with one another, and cooperate in acquiring basic resources such as food, clothes, and money. A married couple is almost always a socially monogamous couple. But couples who choose to cohabit without getting married can also be socially monogamous.
People disagree strongly about the value of monogamy. Some people believe monogamous marriage oppresses women and burdens people with unrealistic expectations of lifelong sexual monogamy. Monogamy from this perspective promotes sexism and leads to needless suffering. Other people believe monogamy promotes women's equality and provides a context to deepen trust and intimacy. Monogamy from this perspective provides a foundation for social progress and offers people more secure relationships.
There are two different definitions of "commitment". One definition is being sent to an institution. The other deals with making and keeping pledges or promises to another person. Some couples have troubles with commitment because they confuse the two definitions. They are afraid that commitment in a relationship means getting into an institution with too much structure, control and barriers to their freedom to be themselves. They are wrong. A commitment is a freeing and growing experience. When two people make a commitment to each other to grow, learn about life and love together, they are creating a positive place to be. A commitment is an act of trust, both of yourself and of your partner.
Some couples choose to commit themselves to each other for life, through a marriage ceremony, either religious or civil. Some couples haven't reached that stage of formal public commitment decision. They may not know if or when they will reach it. If a relationship is to have a chance, people must make their own commitments between themselves about their goals and expectations, as individuals, and as partners or lovers.
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